There’s more tangible, monetary benefits than anyone realizes.ĭon’t get me wrong, there are a ton of intangible benefits out there. If you aren’t feeling the alone time, call up some friends and go out, have fun, no one says you have to be at home waiting for him to walk though the door while he’s at Lodge. Masonry is from a different era, and kind of helps slow us down. These days, everything can get so crazy, that it feels like you barely have time for your SO, let alone yourself. Time apart helps both parties grow and helps your relationship overall evolve. Wednesdays are the nights I take a long bath, order in from that Chinese place down the street T has disdain for, and put on a horror flick (which he can’t stand). Since T has Lodge every Wednesday, that tends to be my “me” night. Don’t get me wrong, I love the man to death, but I feel that everyone in all relationships is in need of some alone time. I’ve said this before, and I will say it again, Masonry is awesome, because it gets T out of the house. I have often felt that we could use a little old school etiquette in today’s world. Many people, women included, are turned off by this aspect of Masonry. Everyone does their very best to be polite and unoffensive, and cell phones at the dinner table are a scarcity. In many ways, being at a large Masonic event, or even just at a Lodge dinner, it like stepping back in time. While this does mean you won’t hear anyone cursing up a storm in mixed company, it also means you will often find doors opened for you, drinks bought for you, and someone taking your coat. Men act like gentlemen, and women act like ladies.
Freemasonry and its appendant bodies help bring back and perpetuate the ideals of Masonry. Look anywhere on the internet, and you are sure to find something about the death of chivalry, or something about how women are assholes and men stopped trying, or whatever its irrelevant. I know that I always feel special when I slip on my fancy gown, heels and makeup, and I can’t imagine that many women feel differently. Unlike men who can get away with two pairs of pants, three shirts, and a suit jacket, women are required to have a much more diverse closet. What’s more, for those of us who love to shop (not me), Masonic events are always a decent excuse to go clothes shopping.
Masonry can help women fulfill the need of playing dress up that I am certain most all of us have had since children. Its just simply something that our society has shied away from. Not many women actually get to go to cocktail parties anymore. Besides the normal business casual clothes I have that I wear to meetings and monthly Lodge dinners, I have a ball gown and two evening gowns in my closet not only that, but all three have been worn within the last year, and will be worn again in the foreseeable future. But, no matter how much any woman may deny it, there is something we can’t help but love when it comes to dressing up and going out on the town.
Never one for makeup, I shopped in the men’s section until my mid twenties (and sometimes still do). I will be the first to admit, I am totally a tomboy. I actually almost didn’t write this article, because I felt that it kind of undermined the entire fraternal idea, and seemed a little selfish, but, as T pointed out, it is the truth. There are benefits to being a Mason’s lady. It’s not really talked about so much, because only those who are already in the same situation as myself realize it. There are many answers to these questions (one of them being that I just like to cook), but there is one that I feel like is overlooked more than most. Why do you do it? Why support Masons if you can’t be one? Why bother spending 4 hours making food for a dinner you’re not really invited to? Don’t they hate women or something? It’s something that I’ve been asked probably more times than I care to really count.
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